What Do You Do When Life Takes A Turn?

April 20th, 2015

What do you do when life takes a turn that you don’t understand, nor are you happy about? What I find in life is that each of these turns helps us toward the spirituality we are craving…peace and harmony in our lives and the lives of those who surround us.
Here are six (6) activities each day that if you do, I promise that your life will gain some relevance and purpose once again.
1. Walk or exercise 30 minutes each day.
2. Each morning, state what your goal is for that day.
3. Make three (3) people smile today…yes, smile more and hug often.
4. Stay positive, in the present with energy, enthusiasm and empathy.
5. Talk to your family and friends often and send them messages that you are thinking of them.
6. Before bed, give thanks for…..whatever you succeeded in doing today.
And, if you don’t get all of these done today, that’s okay, too. Be kind to yourself. You are special just the way you are.

HONOR OUR VETERANS WHO PROTECT OUR FREEDOM…

November 4th, 2014

Just thinking about November 11th and what it means to me. The Veteran’s Day honors those who protect our freedom. Our freedom continues to come at a great expense…loss of our men and women in our Armed Forces. Our freedom as well as other countries that want a democracy continues to be threatened by those more interested in power and greed which permeates the world. If it were not for those in power wanting more, what would our society be like if we followed the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Or, the Platinum Rule, “Do unto others as they would want done unto them.” To reach beyond our greed and power and reach out to others in need. What insight and value as well as respect we would have for others. And, in turn, our life would be much easier if others did treat us the way we want to be treated. On November 11th, honor our Armed Forces who give their lives to protect our freedom.

Understand Yourself…Improve Your Relationships…

September 15th, 2014

The best part of what I’m going to say is that you have a choice on how you react/respond to an emotional situation. Yes, people can only evoke reactions in us if we choose to let them. When you have an emotional reaction, by reflecting and going back in time to when you first remember a similar word, situation, person, or incident, you can work through the original incident by replacing those memories with what should have been to make you feel okay. Furthermore, by replacing these negative messages with positive ones, we overcome negative programming and become more in harmony with our relationships and our environment. As you begin to understand yourself more and more, you will respond positively to more and more situations and relationships with understanding and compassion. It’s worth a try…try it!

Manifesting Change in Your Life…

June 24th, 2014

I just finished reading a book entitled, “Manifesting Change: It Couldn’t Be Easier,” by Mike Dooley. He talks about visualizing what you want. What an insightful and easy read book…I recommend it to all. What inspired me is that by visualizing the “end result,” you can then map out a plan to get there. In the Corporate World, this is considered a “Business Plan” where you have vision (where you want to be), goals (what you want to accomplish) and strategies (action steps of how to get you there). The Business Plan sounds so simple, yet so difficult when we are looking at our lives. Peter Senge talked about Personal Mastery many years ago that started with a vision. Folks who are successful and appear to have it all, have high levels of Personal Mastery which means that they have a vision and take baby steps or actions to work toward accomplishing that vision. So, I challenge each of you…what do you want and where do you want to be in one year? Two years? Five years? Now, make a plan of what you need to do to get you there.

What Do You Do When Life Takes A Negative Turn…

May 4th, 2014

What to do when life takes a turn that we don’t understand, nor are we happy about. What I find in life is that each of these turns helps us toward the spirituality we are craving…peace and harmony in our lives and the lives of those who surround us. I am thankful for the people in my life who have helped me through one of the roughest and most grievous turns in my life…the loss of my dear husband.
I have learned that by doing these six (6) activities each day, your life gains some relevance and purpose once again. I wanted to share with each of you…
1. Walk or exercise 30 minutes each day.
2. Each morning, state what your goal is for that day.
3. Make three (3) people smile today…yes, smile more and hug often.
4. Stay positive, in the present with energy, enthusiasm and empathy.
5. Talk to your family and friends often and send them messages that you are thinking of them.
6. Before bed, give thanks for…..whatever you succeeded in doing today.
And, if you don’t get all of these done today, that’s okay, too. Be kind to yourself. You are special just the way you are.

Why am I so angry?

February 28th, 2014

Do you ever wonder why you are so angry? What did the other person to trigger that anger? Was it something said or something not said? According to Wikipedia, “Anger is an emotion related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged, or denied. Often it indicates when one’s basic boundaries are violated.” When we have an emotional reaction to others, it usually stems from some issues we have within ourselves. As we begin our life, we are carefree and curious. As we grow, our family says, “No, you shouldn’t do or say that. No, don’t touch”. Then, we go to school, our teachers say, “No, that’s not right. You shouldn’t say that or you don’t do it that way.” All these negatives go into what I call a “toy box” so that you have it full of beliefs, biases and assumptions by the time you are an adult. Then, as an adult, you have an emotional reaction to what someone either says or does that offends you. If you could sit in a quiet room, close your eyes, and try to get in touch with this emotion the first time you remember ever feeling it, you will find that you can work through it by replacing that memory with a positive outcome. Once you change this negative into a positive, it will automatically be removed from your “toy box.” It takes a life time to remove all these “negatives” from your toy box. However, as you change the negative experiences to positive experiences, you will find that you are responding more positively toward others and having less emotional reactions. Remember, you are unique and special and deserve a positive and loving life..

New Year’s Resolution for 2014…

December 16th, 2013

New Year’s Resolution…Appreciate Yourself

With the 2014 just around the corner, many of us are focused on our setting our goals, intentions, and resolutions. While this is a wonderful and exciting aspect of every New Year, one of the most important things we can focus on this New Year is appreciating ourselves – first!

If you’re anything like me and most of the people I know and work with, you probably have a tendency to be hard on yourself, or at least to think you have to achieve your goals or do something “good” in order to pat yourself on the back and appreciate yourself. What if we started with self appreciation, instead of waiting until we think we deserved it or had time to do it?

What we’re really after is a sense of satisfaction, fulfillment, and, most importantly, self appreciation. We think that if we achieve our goals, we’ll be happy and feel good about ourselves. However, as you may have noticed throughout your life – not only is this not true, it creates a great deal of stress for us in the process.

Without appreciating ourselves our goals are meaningless. By taking the time to appreciate ourselves, three incredible things happen. First of all, we put ourselves in the best possible position for the fulfillment of our goals. Second, we give ourselves first what we’re going after ultimately – a positive sense of who we are and what’s valuable about us, right now. And third, we make ourselves available in a genuine way to be there for others and appreciate the people around us.

Take care of yourself and appreciate who you are as we move into 2014.

Halloween Begins the Holiday Season…

October 18th, 2013

With the holidays coming upon us and the continued uncertainty that surrounds us about our economy, we may feel a little out of sorts. Just remember during this time that people can only evoke reactions in us if we choose to let them. If you find yourself reacting to someone or something someone said, just look inside yourself. Be in a quiet setting and reflect by going back in time to when you first remember a similar word, situation, person, or incident. Once you remember an incident when you felt a similar emotional reaction, you can work through the original incident by replacing those memories with what should have been to make you feel okay. We find that by replacing negative messages with positive ones, we overcome negative programming and become more in harmony with our relationships and our environment. As you begin to understand yourself more and more, you will respond positively to more and more situations and relationships with understanding and compassion. Have a wonderful and peaceful Holiday Season.

RELATIONSHIPS ARE SPECIAL…NUTURE THEM

August 20th, 2013

I had an opportunity today to attend a luncheon that was a networking function that comprised a group of well-educated, entrepreneurial, successful business women. The one thing I learned was that most successful businesses are built on recommendations from family, friends and associates. It is these folks who we have established relationships with that know who we are, what we want to give to others, how we work, and why we want to do the business that we do. Not only are relationships the key to a successful business, they are also the best teachers in our lives. Maintain and nurture these precious relationships.

CREATING YOUR PERSONAL VISION…

June 26th, 2013

Creating a Personal Vision is a way to think about where you want to be and what you want to do now, next year, in five years or ten years. It is a method of setting goals for ourselves.
Sit down in a quiet spot and take a few deep breaths, relaxing as you exhale. Once you feel relaxed, begin brainstorming what you want to learn and what you want to know. Write these thoughts down. Once you run out of ideas, look at your list and give a rating of 1 to 3 for each item on your list (1 is most important to you; 3 is least important). For each of the 1’s, you will more than likely see a theme emerge. Focus on this theme and determine what it is that you want to learn or what you want to know. Here are some questions you may want to ask yourself to create your personal vision.

• Vision: What do you want to create? Draw a picture of what you want.

• Mission: Why do you want to do? What is the purpose?

• Strategy: How do you propose to do what’s important?

• Objectives/Goals: What are the specific actions that you need to do to achieve?

To give you an example of how to develop your Personal Vision, here is my life experience of my Personal Vision. I wanted to teach. I brainstormed why I wanted to teach and what I would teach. My vision of what I hoped to gain from teaching was to teach others my knowledge and give students the skills to manage more effectively and efficiently after taking my class. My mission was to enhance the workplace and work environment so that people would feel more balanced in their lives and feel valued. The strategy I used was to teach Peter Senge’s Concepts of the Learning Organization that focused on Systems Thinking (closing silos and open dialogue and communication), Personal Mastery (knowing yourself), Mental Models (understanding our biases, assumptions and filters), Team Learning (understanding how we learn from each other) and Shared Vision (integrating our personal vision and organization’s shared vision); McKinsey Model 7S to analyze the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats with the purpose of enhancing organizational effectiveness of Systems (evaluating procedures, information systems, performance measures, rewards, budget, controls), Strategies (understanding how your business rates against competition), Structure (identifying specialization and integration), Skills (defining the competencies of the personnel), Staffing (identifying the resources for the work needs), Style (identifying what is done, not what is said) and Shared Values (understanding the level of trust, integrity, morale, motivation and culture); Motivational Grid, History of Management Theory and Myers Briggs Type Indicator to provide a personality inventory based on the theories of Carl Jung. My Objectives and goals were to teach using three methods – visual (show you), hearing (tell you) and doing (let you experience and experiment).
Take a moment and write down on a piece of paper your personal vision. From there, write down how do you plan on achieving that vision. Next, write down what steps you must take to get there. You now have a footprint of where you want to be.