Archive for February, 2014

Why am I so angry?

Friday, February 28th, 2014

Do you ever wonder why you are so angry? What did the other person to trigger that anger? Was it something said or something not said? According to Wikipedia, “Anger is an emotion related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged, or denied. Often it indicates when one’s basic boundaries are violated.” When we have an emotional reaction to others, it usually stems from some issues we have within ourselves. As we begin our life, we are carefree and curious. As we grow, our family says, “No, you shouldn’t do or say that. No, don’t touch”. Then, we go to school, our teachers say, “No, that’s not right. You shouldn’t say that or you don’t do it that way.” All these negatives go into what I call a “toy box” so that you have it full of beliefs, biases and assumptions by the time you are an adult. Then, as an adult, you have an emotional reaction to what someone either says or does that offends you. If you could sit in a quiet room, close your eyes, and try to get in touch with this emotion the first time you remember ever feeling it, you will find that you can work through it by replacing that memory with a positive outcome. Once you change this negative into a positive, it will automatically be removed from your “toy box.” It takes a life time to remove all these “negatives” from your toy box. However, as you change the negative experiences to positive experiences, you will find that you are responding more positively toward others and having less emotional reactions. Remember, you are unique and special and deserve a positive and loving life..