Develop Self to better understand how we can create the life that we most desire. One of the keys to a better Self is to understand your emotions (fear, anger, sadness, guilt, rage, shame). When you feel an emotion, reflect to see where it is coming from. People can only evoke reactions in us if we choose to let them. By reflecting and going back in time to when you first remember a similar word, situation, person, or incident, you can work through the original incident by replacing those memories with what should have been to make you feel okay. By replacing negative messages with positive ones, we overcome negative programming and become more in harmony with our relationships and our environment. As you begin to understand yourself more and more, you will respond positively to more and more situations and relationships with understanding and compassion.