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Use Your Voice…

Monday, October 22nd, 2012

Three years ago I quoted from the “The Economist” January 17-23rd, 2009 edition that talked about Barack Obama who “put together a team which has impressed almost everyone with its caliber and its centrism.” It went on to say that “Barack is determined to surround himself with the brightest and best” which, in my opinion, is the essence of a great leader. I remember writing about the hope that he gave us and we knew he would be faced with doing unpleasant things. However, the main point in the article said, “He is a respectful and thoughtful man who values “soft power.” I define soft power as caring and compassion for others…but at what cost? I, like others, believed because we wanted to believe in the hope and promise that things would change. In actuality, we are more divided now than we have ever been. Our economy is recovering too slowly. Our wealth has either eroded or diminished. We need new leadership because it all starts there. Be sure to vote on Election Day! We do have a voice!

CARING AND COMPASSION…How We Connect with Others

Friday, June 25th, 2010

Caring and compassion for others as well as serving others is important in our life. After reading “Water for Elephants” by Sara Gruen, Jacob experiences the disappointment of his children not showing up for an important event in his life. He also experiences the sadness when he tries to tell his out of date stories and experiences to both his family and others. If you have experienced the last few years of an elderly parent or grandparent, their stories and life lessons are important to their feeling valued. Even in the workplace, it is imperative to listen to the stories and life lessons of your employees so that they feel valued and respected. Appreciating and listening to the stories and life lessons of others demonstrates caring and compassion.

Believe Positively…

Thursday, April 16th, 2009

Developing a clear vision of what you want and how to get there as described in The Art of Managing…How to Build a Better Workplace and Relationships is supported by “Talent is Never Enough” by John C. Maxwell. He says, “When people believe in themselves, they unleash power in themselves and resources around them that almost immediately take them to a higher level. Your potential is a picture of what you can become. Belief helps you see the picture and reach for it.” He also says, “Accomplishment is more than a matter of working harder and smarter. It’s also a matter of believing positively.” Believe in yourself and you will succeed.

“Soft Power” Equates to Caring & Compassion for Others…

Sunday, January 18th, 2009

“The Economist” January 17-23rd, 2009 edition talked about Barack Obama who “put together a team which has impressed almost everyone with its caliber and its centrism.” Barack is determined to surround himself with the brightest and best which, in my opinion, is the essence of a great leader. He has given us hope even though we know he will be faced with doing unpleasant things. The article further states that “he is a respectful and thoughtful man who values “soft power” which demonstrates caring and compassion for others.

We Can Choose Our Thoughts…

Sunday, December 14th, 2008

One of the most inspirational coaches today is Mike Robbins who lectures on personal growth, happiness and fulfillment. He wrote his first book, “Focus on the Good Stuff.” He states that we all have our doubts, fears, frustrations, anger. Acknowledge them. Then, make a list of what you want because our thoughts become things and we can choose our thoughts. Robbins says, “appreciating yourself, others, and life is the most important thing you can do to transform your life, improve your relationships and create the life you want.” I found his message similar to what I want others to know. It’s like getting rid of the negativity and stuff (fears, doubts, all the things others said to us that made us feel badly about ourselves) in your Toy Box, your Shadow, so that you will be able to respond to life rather than react to life, including creating the balanced life that you want.

Is It Difficult to Tell Others the Truth?

Sunday, November 30th, 2008

According to Mike Robbins, author of “Focus on the Good Stuff,” it is important to tell others the truth. Sometimes we think that appreciation is all about being “nice.” It’s really about recognizing the value of someone or something and about being able to empower ourselves and others. It is also about coming from a place of gratitude, respect, and truth in our relationships with the people around us. Giving people honest feedback can be one of the best ways to appreciate them and let them know we that we care about them.

Before you give someone honest feedback you must have a foundation of trust and appreciation in your relationship with them. It’s also important to ask their permission and make sure it’s okay with them before you launch into your feedback.

It takes real courage to speak your truth to another person. In addition, understand your intention. If your intention is to make a difference for that person, “clear” something that might be in your way with them, or help them see something they may not be able to see – you’re coming from a place that can empower and ultimately support that person. However, if your intention is to be superior, to show them how wrong they are and how right you are, or some version of either of these two things, then you are coming from your ego and your “truth” that will most likely push them away.

Regardless of how we go about this, in the end it’s almost always better for us to speak up than not. We learn more about ourselves, get closer to the other person, as well as grow in the process.

When someone speaks a “hard truth” to you, you may have a tendency to push back and defend yourself initially. Try to hear the feedback and learn from it. More importantly, appreciate the other person’s willingness and courage to say something honest and potentially vulnerable to you.

Look at your relationships, especially the most important ones. Where are you not telling the truth, not giving feedback, or worried to say something honest? What would it take for you to be willing to tell them the truth? What are you afraid of? What would be possible in your relationship with them if you spoke up? Speaking your truth to the most important people in your life is a great gift and will strengthen your relationships. Remember to speak your truth with appreciation, honesty and kindness.

Importance of Relationships

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

“Slow down and make building relationships as important as building projects” is a quote from “Three Cups of Tea” by Greg Mortenson and David Oliver Relin. Their message teaches us an important lesson about other cultures and the importance of relationships.

Greg Mortenson, an American, committed out of passion to build a school for the children in Balti (Pakistan). Once construction began, he drove the workers hard without significant progress and built resentment from the workers. Haji Ali, a Baltistan, told him that if he wanted to thrive in Baltistan, he must respect their ways. Haji Ali said, “The first time you share tea with a Balti, you are a stranger. The second time you take tea, you are an honoree guest. The third time you share a cup of tea, you become family, and for our family, we are prepared to do anything, even die.” Greg Mortenson learned an important lesson about other cultures. He followed this tradition and the workers accelerated productivity and completed the school in a relative short time.

What an incredible example of caring and compassion for others and serving others and the community.

Why We Are Offended by Others…

Sunday, November 2nd, 2008

According to Mike Robbins, a well-known author, we get offended by what people say, things on TV, opposing political opinions (especially these days), noise, music, traffic, weather, our family, different view points, and so much more. We believe we are right and others are wrong, if they don’t agree with us. Many of our opinions are self-righteous. Can you relate? What if we allowed others to be as they are? We take so many things personally that have nothing to do with us. When you are reacting emotionally to someone or something, it’s your shadow or mirror that this negative thing is showing you about yourself and life. The more we react to something, the less freedom and peace we have.
1) It’s not all about you. Even though it may seem like someone is being rude to you or something is happening directly to you, most of the time the things you take personally or get offended by have little or nothing to do with you.
2) Have compassion for others. While you don’t have to simply allow people to treat you poorly or let them walk all over you, if you can have compassion for them instead of assuming they’re out to get you, it makes life more peaceful all the way around. Often when other people act in a way you find “offensive,” they are having a difficult time themselves.
3) Right or happy, you choose? In life, you have a choice – you can be right or you can be happy, not both. When you’re obsessed about being right all the time – you’re easily offended. When you let go of your need to be right, you have the space to be happy, peaceful, and joyful.

Become What You Think Most…

Saturday, October 11th, 2008

Wow! Our worries about the economy can lead us to negative thoughts. Keep those thoughts positive. Continue to develop Self which is the mind, body and spirit. “The Art of Managing…How to Build a Better Workplace and Relationships” gives step-by-step process to follow in the development of Self which leads to a better understanding of creating the lives that we most desire for ourselves. “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne reinforces this concept by saying that everything that’s coming into your life you are attracting into your life. And, it’s attracted to you by virtue of the images you’re holding in your mind. You become what you think most, but you also attract what you think most.

Rid Those Negative Feelings…

Monday, September 15th, 2008

Do you have a behavior that you don’t like about yourself? When I wrote “The Art of Managing…, I was talking about our hidden Self…it’s the other side of us that we don’t want others to see. Working on Self as helps you rid those negative thoughts and feelings. “Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert supports my belief. She says, “People who want to change behaviors or overcome fears, need only to vividly visualize themselves behaving in the desired way and eventually without conscious effort they will simply begin to behave differently.” I truly believe that when you replace those negative feelings and thoughts with positive, you inevitably end up helping everybody.