Relationships…the key to success

August 13th, 2017

I have a network of well-educated, entrepreneurial, successful business women and men. One of the common themes is that most successful businesses are built on recommendations from family, friends and associates. It is these folks who we have established relationships with that know who we are, what we want to give to others, how we work, and why we want to do the business that we do. Not only are relationships the key to a successful business, they are also the best teachers in our lives. Maintain and nurture these precious relationships.

Lean Into Your Fears…

June 25th, 2017

A continuation of a recent post, fear can and does stop us in life – from being ourselves, speaking our truth, and going for what we really want. But, when we remember with compassion that there’s nothing wrong with us for getting scared and when we’re willing to lean into our fears with vulnerability and boldness – we can literally transform them into something that catapults our growth and fulfillment in life. I truly believe it works because I’ve tried it myself…face and lean into that fear!

Transform Your Fear

April 22nd, 2017

Fear is something that we all experience throughout our lives, especially on our journey toward deeper authenticity. Being who we really are, expressing ourselves honestly, being bold, and going for what we want in life can cause a great deal of fear in us.
I get scared all the time. When I was younger I thought there was something really wrong with me because I would get so nervous – in sports, in school, in social settings, and more. I now understand that everyone else experiences their own version of the same basic fears I have (being judged, making mistakes, looking bad, failing, disappointing others, and more). It’s just part of being human.
Many of us run away or hide from our fears because they seem scary, uncomfortable, or embarrassing. We also erroneously think we “shouldn’t” have them or that we are somehow “wrong” for feeling scared. However, most things that mean a lot to us in life don’t show up without any fear at all. And as we strive to live with authenticity, it’s inevitable that we’ll experience quite a bit of fear along the way.
The question isn’t whether or not we experience fear in our lives (because we all do and always will for as long as we live); the more important question for each of us to ask and answer is, how can I move through my fears in an honest way so they don’t stop me from being who I really am and going for what I truly want in life?

What is Success?

August 16th, 2016

Several years ago, I completed a master’s thesis on Personal Mastery in Organizational Leadership in which I interviewed seven leaders in our industry who were considered successful by their peers. One of the common themes that emerged was the fact that successful leaders demonstrate caring and compassion for people. They show deep sympathy and empathy which is an intellectual or emotional identification with another; mutual understanding or affection; ability to share another’s ideas, emotions; to feel concerned about or interested in another.
Personal Mastery is defined as knowing who I am, how I come to believe what I believe, knowing me really well and how I filter things in the world. To get to know yourself, try working to bridge the gap between your own perception of Self and others’ perception of you. Because each of us knows who we are and we know what our motives are.
What I truly learned through the years is that these common themes not only apply to successful leaders, but also to successful people, no matter who you are or what you do.

Life lessons…

June 9th, 2016

What to do when life takes a turn that we don’t understand, nor are we happy about. What I find in life is that each of these turns helps us toward the spirituality we are craving…peace and harmony in our lives and the lives of those who surround us. I am thankful for the people in my life who have helped me through one of the roughest and most grievous turns in my life…the loss of my dear husband. It has been three years and the emptiness left in my heart and soul remains.
I have learned that by doing these six (6) activities each day, your life gains some relevance and purpose once again. I wanted to share with each of you…
1. Walk or exercise 30 minutes each day.
2. Each morning, state what your goal is for that day.
3. Make three (3) people smile today…yes, smile more and hug often.
4. Stay positive, in the present with energy, enthusiasm and empathy.
5. Talk to your family and friends often and send them messages that you are thinking of them.
6. Before bed, give thanks for…..whatever you succeeded in doing today.
And, if you don’t get all of these done today, that’s okay, too. Be kind to yourself. You are special just the way you are.

Negotiations…Maintain Relationships Between Parties

January 28th, 2016

Lorna Hines, a Real Estate Consultant, teaches and coaches effective and efficient dialogues for buying and selling homes. I wanted to repeat something that she said, “The power of negotiating is the ability to walk away; and, the skill of negotiating is never having to.” What a profound concept. I believe that the best negotiators are those who do not damage the relationship between the parties.

August of 2007 a few months prior to his death, I had the opportunity to have lunch and talk with Coach Bill Walsh of the San Francisco 49ers who told me that his success came from the fact that he maintained relationships throughout his life, even when negotiating with others.

A Time of Thanks…

December 6th, 2015

This is the time of year when relationships appear to be at the forefront of our minds and actions. The holidays represent gatherings, sharing food and beverage, and warm wishes to all. This year I am saddened by the insurgence of violence in our society. I cannot remember a time when I had this unsafe feeling whether I at home, work or an event. Whatever happened to the phrase, “Be kind to one another;” or, “Love one another as you love yourself.” I am wishing all of you who read my blog to have a wonderful holiday season and be thankful for your family and friends. All these relationships should be cherished…my heart goes out to all of you.

Unconditional Love…

September 6th, 2015

Life teaches us many lessons. The most important is the relationships we make and retain. People come into our lives as our teachers, as we are also their teacher. We can learn from them, teach them and/or turn away from them. What is your path? I am a healer and find that those folks who come into my life are searching to be healed whether it’s the mind, body or spirit. What lessons can I teach them? More importantly, how can I help them? We are all looking for love and acceptance. Look at each of your blessings and be thankful daily for those blessings. The more positive we are, the more enlightened we become. Once we accept and love ourselves, only then can we love others unconditionally. And, this unconditional love is what we all seek. My heart goes out to all of you.

Truth and Honesty…

July 28th, 2015

According to Wikipedia encyclopedia, Honesty is the human quality of communicating and acting truthfully related to truth as a value. This includes listening, and any action in the human repertoire, such as body language and tone used while speaking. The meaning of the word truth extends from honesty, good faith, and sincerity.
Honesty means simply stating facts and views as best one truly believes them to be. It includes both honesty to others, and to oneself and about one’s own motives and inner reality. Dishonesty, at times, has the ability to cause misfortune to the person who displayed it.
Isn’t it interesting that we judge ourselves by our intentions and judge others by their actions. Now go seize the day with truth and honesty!

You can do anything if you make a commitment…

July 3rd, 2015

One of my favorite authors, Ken Blanchard, wrote, “There is a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.” What a profound concept. How many times in our lives do we say we are committed when we truly are not? If something that we wanted to happen did not happen, and we reexamine our motives and internal thoughts, we might find that we truly were definitely interested in the outcome, but truly not committed.